Ok. This is an open letter to every person on the planet. It is gender biased, written by a cisgender, straight, white male and directed primarily at the same. However, the message applies to everyone, regardless of gender, sex, preference, race, creed, or color.
You might find yourself wondering before you get to the end why I am so passionate about this subject. I can’t explain it easily, but suffice it to say that every year I hear the horror stories coming from women about their conference experiences. The stories I hear come from tech conferences and geek/fandom conferences. The most recent story I heard was from someone I’ve never met in person, but we’ve talked a lot online and I consider her among my friends. I also am a father of 4 girls and 2 boys. I don’t want to raise them into a rape culture. I do not want my sons to be a part of the problem and I don’t want my daughters to be statistics or victims. (And, honestly, since rape can happen to and by any gender, the reverse is also true. I don’t want my children to be rapists, enablers, victims, or statistics.) So I get rather enraged when I see behavior that does not adamantly condemn rape culture.
TRIGGER WARNINGS for BDSM, rape and similar concepts.